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Last weekend we have attended a lovely Summer wedding in our city and while many people have dressed very nice there have been several faux-pas I could not get over. I know I am no stylist but I have dived in deep into the theme on what to wear to a wedding cause I for myself want to look my best at such ocassions cause it is also always very nice for the pair that gets married to have nicely dressed guests in the picutres.

What to wear to a Summer Wedding – Man

Trends come and go but you can never go wrong with a nice colored great fitting suit. If you do not know what to wear go with a dark colored suit. Navy, black and brown have worked great over decades and lately a nice hunter or sage green hue made top of the list.

If it is really really hot you might wanna switch to a linen suit but I would be careful cause a linen suit looks very casual very fast. Also don´t mix and match. A wedding is no place to dress down or try to experiment.

A long sleeved button down is a must-have. Short sleeves look a little frumpy and are bulky under the jacket. I would not wear a vest cause often times the groom and groomsmen are wearing vests and you don´t want to look to similar to them (if it is required it is fine tough). As far as accessories go a tie or a bow tie plus a pocket square are your go-tos. If you want you can add a pair of funny socks that show from time to time but that must be it in terms of special. What I have seen make a huge comeback are suspenders. They add a nice touch of old Hollywood glam to your wedding outfit but please only a bowtie and not a tie. 

Shoes and (if you need one) your belt should match colorwise.

What to wear to a Summer Wedding – Woman

Now when it comes to woman fashion there is a lot more to the dresscode than you might think. First of all a Summer wedding will be mostly a on a hot day but do not get too naked. A mini dress won´t make you feel cooler but it is super inappropriate. You won´t feel good cause you just can´t move as you´d wish to.

Another thing that might not be permissioned is a Summer dress that has way too much white in it. Please don´t wear it and don´t ask the bride if it is okay if you do. I mean what is she suppossed to say when you have already set your mind on a dress !!! 

Also please don´t get too fancy. This is not the place nor the time to try out new fashion trends. You can never go wrong with a classic that hat has a little twist. A side slit can be very elegant as long as you are still able to wear underpants. An open back dress is very sexy and a great piece if you do not want to show any cleavage as long as people do not see you butt crack. The same goes for a dress that has a huge neckline. It is fine as long as your boobs don´t fall out while bending over a little and they do not look imprisoned or strangulated. A sweetheart neckline does the trick here.

Too casual is not an option either. I have seen so many people wear simple and short cotton dresses. This is not a casual ocassion. You can wear all of those the following week. Please don´t go too simple. A elegant blazer jacket can do a lot for your outfit but it can´t save every look. Another thing that is a no-go are sneakers at a wedding. No just no. If you can´t walk in high heels or don´t feel comfortable wearing a pair of those for many hours get yourself a pair of elegant flats or wedges. Slingback pumps with a short heel are also a proper choice of shoes. 

Belt bags or backpacks are no great choice of bags for a elegant festivity. There is no such thing needed like a practical bag for a wedding. 

If you don´t want to wear a floorlength dress like I did a cocktail length, a midi dress or a high-low option is mostly fine as long as the invitation isn´t strictly forbidding it. 

Make your you wearing a proper bra with your dress. The bra itself or straps should never show at such an ocassion, in fact it should never show anywhere else as well. There are several options out there and it really exists a bra solution for every dress.

Always watch out for a dress code in your invitation. There will be one most of the time. I for example wanted cocktail attire and forbade any kind of Bavarian folk costume.

What to wear to a Summer Wedding – Kids

The dress code for kids at weddings is a lot more relaxed than for adults but there still is one. For example it is okay for little boys to wear a short suit which means a pair of linen shorst and a white shirt with suspenders or a vest. There doesn´t have to be worn a whole suit but the option of course is there.

I often see little kids wear the same things as they would to Kindergarten or playgroup and that is a little to leisure in my opinion. You don´t have to go all in for your kids but I think they should be allowed to feel pretty / handsome and fit in. Kids need to learn that there are certain ocassions where it´s only appropriate to show up in a certain way like church and other invitations to festivities as well. The couples invest a lot of time and money to arrange a beautiful day not only for themselves but also for their guests so they definitely should be returning the favor by putting some effort in their look. 

Little girls outfits are much easier cause most of them already own lace or tulle dresses which are totally fine. You don´t have to spend a fortune at all. There are plenty of dresses for under 20 Euro available for example at H&M or SheIn. I just would make sure that there isn´t some kind of comic print all over. Not very elegant if you have a bright Paw Patrol picutre all over. 

As far as shoes go sandals are totally fine. I bought the girls similar pairs of white sandals and they looked very cute on. For boys work the same things. A pair of brown or black sandals (no velcro, no print) or any other color that matches the outfit. 

I know this is a lot to pay attention to but most of it is common sense. If you have any questions let me know. I am no stylist but I have been to a lot of weddings and seen it all.