do you remember your school days and mostly your vacation time? We always were a bunch of girls chatting, laughing and talking about the next big party and cute boys. Always in a cluster and it was fine. We attended the same courses, went to the same cafés and stores and also walked together on the way to the train station to catch our train/bus. But then life comes in your way and after graduation people spread all over the country/area. Interests change. Work comes along. Working hours differ. Relationships come along. It is hard to catch up with everyone so the few who are staying – the inner circle – are the ones who are worth the work.
Yes friendship is work. And the less you have to do the more you can invest your time in your friends. So go back to the time you where having about 10 girlfriends. Of course you knew what everyone was up to. If she had a new boyfriend, new clothes, which destination she went for vacation with her parents, who was heartbroken, who got good grades or the education she was dreaming of…
The list goes on and on. And of course you where able to know cause besides the time you studied or did your homework you always stuck together.
So “after growing up” it gets a lot harder to maintain those. And this is not only my side. I believe everyone is thinking this way. It is when being selfish suddenly becomes development.
After moving to another city and having a partner and building a house and working and having kids to care for there is only a short time frame left of your day and imagine how tiny it would be if you had to call 10 of your girlfriends to update each. So many get lost one the way. Probably some you thought you would stick forever (I had two really close girlfriends while in secondary school and now I don´t even know where they are or what they are doing).
So having two or three or even just one really good girlfriend you can call no matter what, you can always rely on, you can tell everything without getting judged upfront or being unsure what you can say to not hurt a feeling. To have as much fun topics as serious ones. That is enough and worth the work. Although you really should put effort and work into a friendship, it shouldn´t feel like actual work.
What do you guys about this topic? Anyone experienced something similar.
hopefully you are fit again after NYE and ready to start the new year. I am not sharing any resolutions but I wanted to share a quick look back on the last year. Favorite looks, what we did, what happended and overall my most liked and read post.
I personally love Valentine´s Day. I know it isn´t a real holiday and I also know that you should cherrish your loved ones year round and not only on one day but I think there aren´t any cuter or sparklier red and pink things year round so I love this day. And isn´t it always nice to spend time with someone you love.
March Started to plan our wedding and finalizing on important details like the dress, the suit and our shoes as well as the flowers and our invitations. This has been the most productive month in terms of wedding planning.
We went to Lake Garda in June and it was the best time I have ever travelled to. No crowds at all. A seat in every front row at the lake restaurants and no long lines. Since we have been to Lake Garda a few times now we decided to spend on day in Milan. The architecture and history was so amazing we where amazed for days.
it is Sunday and what´s best to do for Sunday´s than read?? Anyone with me? I am sharing another round of my reading list today. All of the books I have read in November (I wish they where more but with all the beginning of the Christmas hustle and bustle, Thanksgiving and our Holiday Party there wasn´t just enough time).
Three Wishes by Liane Moriarty // Sensible Lyn is struggling to balance being a mother, wife and
businesswoman without losing her mind. Cat, whose perfect marriage is
the envy of all her friends, never suspects that her husband has been
hiding a secret that will tear her life apart. Directionless Gemma
changes jobs and boyfriends every few months and has just met a new man
who could be the one to unlock her hidden past. Through
everything, the bonds of the sisters are strong enough to withstand
whatever life throws at them. That is until the night of their
thirty-fourth birthday dinner, when home truths are revealed and things
are said that can’t be taken back.
My opinion: A nice read. I really love her writing style. I absolutey adored Big Little Lies and this book is also really great. Not as got as the other but a gread read.
The New Fashion Rules by Victoria Margrath // The rules of fashion have changed. The new digital era is all about
being seen, liked and inspired. So how do we define ourselves through
style? And why has the evolution of the Internet changed the way we buy
and wear clothing? Superblogger Victoria Magrath reveals the pivotal
moments that have transformed the fashion world, from the Nineties
through to the Noughties, and shares insider secrets and practical tips
for navigating the ever-changing fashion landscape. Find inspiration
from the new diversity movement which embraces all shapes and sizes,
relive the moment Cara Delevingne recorded a selfie on the catwalk and
discover how internet sensations like Instagram and ASOS are changing
the landscape of fashion permanently. These are The New Fashion Rules.
My opinion: Loved it and totally recommend it. I shows you Victoria´s perspective on the change of fashion from a few years ago and today´s fast fashion including more fashion shows than ever and new trends as fast as the Internet can share. If you are a fashion lover you can totally relate to the them and you will love it.
White Lies by Lucy Dawson // Alexandra Inglis is a respected family doctor, trusted by her
patients to keep their most intimate secrets. And if sometimes the
boundaries between duty and desire blur… well, she’s only human. But
when Alex oversteps a line with Jonathan, one of her patients, she
knows she’s gone too far. Jonathan is obsessive, and to get what he
wants he will tear Alex’s world apart – threatening not only her career
but her marriage and family too. Soon Alex finds she’s capable
of doing almost anything to keep hold of her perfect life, as it begins
to spin dangerously out of her control…
My opinion: I couldn´t get into it for the frist 20 to 30 pages but at somepoint it has an interesting twist a way I could have never guessed it and it got me hooked from the minute this happened so I had to finish it at once. Super thrilling. You will not believe what and how it is happening. Highly recommend this one.
Pictures from our Swarovski dinner cruise
December bucket list:
– visit another city for different Christmas lights and Advent markets (just came home from Leipzig)
– bake a gingerbread house (done – view post here)
– make your Christmas signature drink (view post here)
– deck your front porch (planning to get this done this week)
– watch a Christmas performance (ballet, theatre)
– go on a Christmas inspired dinner (we took a Christmas dinner cruise last week)
after all the hurly-burly the last couple of week including birthdays, our wedding and our honeymoon I have finally found the time to read the books I have wanted for so long and also share my September reading list with you.
In fact I first wanted to read all the books I bought recently and review them in one huge book review but there is now ways I am gonna make it any soon and now is the time where – at least I do so – we have to/can spend much more time inside and cuddle up and read a book.
I do have a Kindle and I have to admit I don´t use it at all. I need a real book in my hand and I want my books where I can see them and that is a shelf in my office.
So for today I am reviewig four books I have currently read:
Girl on the Train // I feel like this is such a basic book everyone already read but I also included it into my round-up cause it was new to me. I didn´t watch the movie either but I have to admit I wanted to read the book before. Movies sometimes destroy a lot of your imagination (Harry Potter for example). The book was great and I would totally recommend it and read it all over. I loved the perspective of the writing. Picturing her before and after her actions and working up the things she forgot. Also sometimes it has been a little annoying to take a step back after she already moved on.
Behind Closed Doors // This was awesome. I would totally recommend it to everyone who loves a good crime book. It was exciting the whole time and kept me super suspicious with all the people in the book and the action they took. You never know who is wrong and who knows it all. Great until the end with a unexpected twist at the end.
The Last Mrs. Parrish // To be honest I just started this one but I think it is going to be interesting. It is about a girl who thinks she deserves a better live and wants to steel a husband from another women. So she manages to frequently show up in their lives. That is all I know from now but it´s all about lying and sheeming and I hope this is going to be a great thriller.
The Girl with no past // Oh boy. This was very hard to get into it. It is switching a lot between the past and the now but isn´t telling you anything you really want to know. But after reading through it came on pretty strong after finally knowing what has happened in the past.
These are all the books I have read from August and September (I wanted to read so much more but I think this has to wait until the evenings are dark and cold and I can stay inside without feeling guilty by not being outside). I have ordered about 6 new books with my last order so stay tuned there is going to come a lot of fall mystery your way.